The youth I work with typically fall into two categories: those who blame their anger on others and take no responsibility for their actions and feel their anger gives them permission to act aggressively, and those who don't express their anger, instead relying on harmful quick fixes to cope with emotions. Anger Solutions cleverly and effectively engages and empowers both types of youth to evaluate their beliefs about anger and how their expression of it is impacting their lives. I have seen youth at a loss for words when they realize things can be different; it is powerful! Anger Solutions is unlike any other anger program out there - I strongly recommend it!
Over the years I have facilitated many Anger Solutions programs and all were highly successful by my clients. They attributed the learned skills to their everyday relationships as being “the little gold nugget” that they had been searching for. The biggest one was just having the awareness and understanding of how anger develops gave them the sense that they were actually in control of their lives and were not only responsible to make changes but in fact could make changes.
I also have found the Anger Solutions for Kids highly effective in my private sessions working with children where their anger has ostracized them and they felt quite helpless. Their new found skills have provided a better skills base for interacting with their parents and peers and the children have just said “it is cool and fun”
Anger Solutions has played an essential role in helping the women we work with move past built up anger that has played an significant role in preventing personal growth and happiness. Anger Solutions has provided the women with realistic, hands-on tools that can be adapted to everyday life, to be able to understand, evaluate and resolve the source of their anger. Not only is Anger Solutions designed to be a solution based program, it is also designed to be non-judgmental, make individuals feel a sense of normalcy and that their feelings are validated.
We completed our first anger solutions group and ended on a high note with certificates and donuts. One interesting comment from a group member. He said that as he started the group, he told himself that we had nothing he could gain from and that he would merely go through the motions. He said that after 2 sessions, he realized that there was stuff here for him. At the end of the group, he felt compelled to admit this and to apologize for having dismissed us and the program at the beginning. Another member who had once attacked someone from his vehicle, was confronted with an angry motorist who got out of his car and walked back towards our guy. Our guy got out of his vehicle ready to get physical. He suddenly thought about the previous group session and got into his car and drove away ! Wow !
Looking forward to the next group. Again, I believe strongly that having compatible male and female facilitators for the group increases the effectiveness.
Alexis (female addict with violent tendencies) realized that she needed help in dealing with her anger so she took a course at Amethyst entitled "Anger Solutions for Women". This course helped her to realize that whenever she got angry that was when she wanted to drink and to smoke marijuana. The course helped her to recognize the build-up of anger and find ways of channelling that anger into positive solutions. Since that time, she has not reacted violently nor had any violent confrontations for over 1.5 years.
Both families (I am working with) have reported a decline in family conflict since they began the program. With my first clients the granddaughter was not a willing participant after about the 4th lesson, so the grandmother and I continued, with the granddaughter sitting in if she wanted to. The grandmother reported a significant difference in her ability to remain calm and not immediately escalate when provoked by her granddaughter, which in turn she said defused the granddaughter not allowing her to control the situation with her oppositional behaviour.
Two separate mental health workers within this agency reported to me directly the shocking growth their clients have demonstrated. Both of the workers report the growth seemed very evident after about weeks 5-6.
“We began with 12 participants, and graduated 11. Attendance was maintained at 90% through-out the program. I marvelled at how eager participants were to share successes they had during the week when they practiced new skills. One person in particular informed me that she carried her workbook around with her for support. She stated that when she felt herself getting angry, she would actually pull the book out and remind herself of what she needed to try next.”